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How to Stay Calm during the Holidays

The Holidays can often be a stressful time so here the three most important tips that help you stay calm and get you trough the season.

Already feeling the stress and overwhelm build up? Listen to this short video and get your key take-a-ways.

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Here is a short summary of the video content

  1. Breathe deeply

    Deep belly breaths are my go-to method – ALWAYS. When you breathe deeply you collect yourself and connect to your body. That helps you move from the busy mind into the body, bringing an instant calm. With every inhale you breathe in a little bit of calm and with every exhale you let go of some of the stress and overwhelm. Take three deep breaths and then check-in with your body and mind and notice what is there. JUST BREATHE AND BE.

  2. Be mindful

From the deep breaths we move into mindfulness. This way we can dig a little deeper on what is going on in our mind and body. It’s important to name the thoughts and feelings from a viewer’s perspective and just notice what is there. The key in mindfulness is doing this without judgement and that is always the tricky part because we are so used to being hard on ourselves. So just name what is there and say to yourself that this is normal. I’m feeling stressed. Yes that is normal during the Holiday season. I’m feeling overwhelmed. Yes that’s normal too.

  1. Connect to your body

Connecting to your body is a way to activate that soothing part of yourself. You’re already doing this with deep breathing. Try giving yourself a hug and rub the upper arms. Try swaying from one side to the other. This always brings calm and relaxations to the body and helps you move the focus away from your busy mind.

 So these are my most important tips to stay calm over the Holidays. Maybe you need to use these often and maybe you don’t. Maybe you would like to put a reminder on your phone so you remember those easy to use tips and tricks.

I think that’s the hardest part – to remember to use them – as well as remembering how powerful these simple tips are and how they can help you find your inner peace and calm when you need it.

Enjoy the Holidays!

Love,
Ragna

P.s. If you want more easy to use tips and tricks that work like a charm, check out my resource page. Open in a separate internet browser if you are reading this from your facebook page.

Transcript of the video

Already feeling the stress of the holidays. I’ve got just the thing for you.

First of all, just breathe. Take a deep breath in,
Be. Hold it a tiny bit, and then just let it all out. Ah,
And again, take a deep breath in, feel your belly,
feel your chest, and then let go. Ah,
yes, you might want to keep breathing like this and feel the stress go
this way. You can collect yourself, connect with yourself,
and, and maybe not be as stressed. So tip,
this was my number one tip, and this is always my number one tip.
And that’s deep breathing.

Number two, be mindful,
mindful of what you are thinking because we are so caught up with,
um, uh,
all the things that we have put on our plates because usually we,
we have a lot of things on our plate during the season.
And so being mindful really means just take,
take a deep breath and then notice your thoughts and say, Hey,
what’s going on in my, in my head? Um,
what can I look at it from like a viewer’s perspective
and say, oh, yes, I’m feeling overwhelmed. Yes, I’m feeling stressed. Yes,
I’m feeling anxious. I feel like this is too much. Just name those feelings.

And the tricky part is to do it without judgment. It’s like,
um, so that’s the tricky part in mindfulness has to,
has to do with the non-judgment part.

So when you just name the feelings and see how you’re,
you’re doing and the thoughts, you say, oh yes, there’s this thought. Yes,
that’s normal. Yes. Then, then this, this thought and this feeling is there.
Yeah, that’s normal. I can see, I can see it. So that’s a good point.

And the third thing is to just connect to your body.
You do it already when you are, um, taking deep breaths,
you are connecting to your body and put, uh,
you can activate more soothing part of yourself.

If you just give yourself like a little hug, maybe you rub your upper arms,
what you’re doing, and if you sway like this,
it really brings you calm. And,
and that’s really important because when we have the calm,
we can choose our attention. We can choose what we focus on. We can,
we can,
we can have more choice and not feel so stressed and overwhelmed.

So those are my top three tips.

Deep breathing,

Being mindful without judgment and naming the feelings
and the thoughts that we are having and noticing them,

and then connecting to our bodies
And maybe give ourselves a hug and swing our body.

It’s even better when you do, like,
when you stand upright and you just connect that way.

Enjoy.

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How I came to realize my theme word for my life

I realized something today. Something BIG. Something that I should have seen before. If I had been paying attention.

See, I‘ve been struggling for a long time to find out what I can help people with. I’ve been asking myself this question again and again. What can I help people with? What can I share on social media that will show who I am and what I do for people? What are my themes? What is it that I’m here to do?

I’ve struggled with this even if I’ve been teaching various online courses, hosting online retreats and webinars, speaking on summits and so much more online since 2014.

So I opened up this big A3 sketchbook that I only open up when I’m planning something big. Like a course, lecture, or a membership. I took it out because I wanted a social media plan. A big big plan. Something tangible for me to work after. And I wanted it ready right now! 😉

So I got the book out and started staring at the big blank page. Asking myself- What can I talk about? What do I know? What is helpful for others? What can my themes be?

Then I remembered something – I had made some kind of a plan before. Maybe it was in this book. I started flipping through the pages, looking for that plan.

I found many things. Somethings even dated back to 2015 when I was starting to work online. And as I was flipping thought the pages, I kept seeing the same words popping up again and again. And then again and again.

And that’s when I realized it. I HAVE been talking about the same things again and again. I have the same themes. What I’ve been doing is not so random as I’ve felt it has been (teaching course on various themes come to mind).

What I have been doing is dressing my themes up in different costumes. But the themes have remained the same.

I´ve always been talking about the same themes. It has always been about acceptance and compassion toward yourself. It has always been about nourishment for your body, mind, and spirit. It has always been about cultivating your mind so it can serve you better. It has always been about self-care, self-compassion, and self-love. It has always been about activating the soothing system. It has always been about meditation and mindfulness. It has always been about connecting within so you can find that inner peace.

But first and foremost, it has always been about calm. Finding calm in everyday situations. Finding the calm within. Being calm whenever possible so you can make better decision, so you can have better focus and concentration, so you do not miss out on life as it moves past you. So you can enjoy your life better. Your everyday life. Not only when you are on vacation on a faraway beach.

Because to me calm goes together with joy. Calm goes together with feeling content. Calm goes together with feeling happy, for being happy. Even in the midst of the chaos of everyday life.

And that to me is life.

Love,
Ragna

P.s. I’m working on a membership where all of my themes come together so you can live your happy, calm and content life in the midst of the chaos and stress of everyday life. Join the waitlist here.

P.s.s. I’ve been called the Icelandic Queen of Calm and up until now – I’ve laughed about it because it implies that I’m calm all the time in every situation and nobody is calm all the time. But now I’ve come to realized it’s not that what is meant by this. What is meant is that I have a calming presence. Something that might be hard to convey through words. That calming presence helps people feel calm and at ease when they listen and talk to me. Again very hard to convey through words. But videos are easier. Follow my on social media for a better look 🙂
I spend most of my time at Instagram and Facebook.

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Why should I meditate? The top three reasons.

We know that meditation has many benefits but sometimes we don’t know why it is good for us 🙂

Sometimes we might need something a little more personal to make meditation a regular part of our lives. Something that connects us to the new habit so we keep going, also when we are not feeling “it”.

This was at least the case for me. For years I kept trying to make meditation a regular practice. Sometimes meditation was in and sometimes it was out. It was like this for a long long time.

It was not until I got very clear on why I was doing it that I managed to make it a regular part of my life. 

Here I want to share with you my top three reasons for meditation in the hope that you will find your reasons in there.

When our reasons are clear it’s makes it easier to go over hindrances that always come up when we are getting in a new habit that supports our health and well-being.

Here is the video were I share my top three reasons.

Meditation and the reasons why it’s good for you

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Here is are my three reasons – in a short summary.

  1. Calm my mind.
    Meditation helps to calm my mind and clear my head. When we slow down our breath, our thoughts slow down with it. When the thoughts go slower through my racing mind, I can notice them and maybe clear them. It improves focus and concentration, cultivates compassion for myself and others and therefore makes my less judgmental and less reactive. All hugely beneficial.
  2. Calm my body.
    Meditation helps me to slow down my breathing which can slow down my heart rate and blood pressure. That somehow helps me to release some of the stress that lives in my body. I can breath in calm and breath out stress and tension. On a cellular level it regulates our stress hormones (increases dopamine and melatonin, modulates serotonin and decreases cortisol and norepinephrine). I didn’t manage to get the biology of stress into the video even with my Bachelor degree in biology. I should be sprinkling my biology knowledge everywhere 😉
  3. Reminds me that I’m more than my thoughts, my emotions, my actions and what I do in life.
    When we are in meditative state we can notice our thought processes which lead to emotions and feeling and which then can lead to actions (or no action). If we can notice our thoughts/thoughts patterns and emotions/feelings that follow in meditation, that means there is something more. Someone that is noticing that process. That is the true inner self, inner consciousness, metacognition (whatever you would like to call it) that is not affected by all the others (thoughts, emotions, actions). That knowing brings me calm, just knowing there is more to me.
    There is also a gap between all those the inner self, the thoughts, emotions/feeling and action/not action. Meditation cultivates those gaps and helps me to be less reacting, sometimes at least 🙂

    Those are me top three reasons for meditating regularly.

Find your own personal reasons to keep you connected to your meditation practice and make it easier to keep going when going gets tough. 

My hope for you that once you found your reasons, getting settled in a meditation practice will be a breeze 🙂

Love from Iceland,
Ragna

Transcript of the video

Hi. It’s Ragna and today I want to talk to you about meditation. We know that meditation has many benefits, but we might need something more personal to keep up a practice or set up a meditation practice.

At least that was the case with me. Until I got very clear on my why it was hard for me to maintain a regular practice so I want to go over my top three reasons so you can find yours in there.

So, my number one reason is just to calm my mind. It helps me to calm my mind and somehow to clear my head and that’s important in the time and age that we live in when we have so many different things coming at us up all the time. So, it helps us calm down and clear our head, and when we are meditating, we slow down our breath, and when we slow down our breath.

We also slow down the thoughts, so the thoughts don’t go as fast so we can notice them, and maybe clear them, and not react to them.

So, that’s my first reason, and it also helps us to be more focused, and improves our memory, or at least I hope so. And it can also help us cultivate a little bit more self-compassion, and also compassion for others. So, it makes us a little bit less judgmental which I think is helpful in today’s world.

And number two is just to calm my body. As I said before when we meditate our breathing slows down, and that slows down our body, slows down the heart rate as well as the blood pressure, and it somehow helps me, at least, let go of some of the stress that lives in my body, so I can somehow breathe in calm and let go of stress when I breathe out.

And it really helps so I can just let go of the stress and not keep it in my body.

And then the third and the most important reason, for me at least, is that it helps me remember that there is more to myself than thoughts and emotions and actions and what we do.

So, when we are in the meditation state, we are following our thoughts or noticing our thoughts, and that means there is someone to notice the thoughts.

So that means there is something more than just the thoughts, the emotions, and what I do. There is some inner core. Some inner self, inner consciousness, that is following the thoughts. So, if we can follow our thought processes that means there is more of me, or my inner self is watching, and that for me, is important.

And also, to cultivate the gap between myself and the thoughts, and then the emotion, and from that we take action, or we don’t take action.

So, it can make me a little bit less reactive, at times, and I think that helps with emotional regulation. And that is actually shown in research, that it helps with that. So, we can better regulate our emotions, and that’s important to have.

And it helps me bring more calm into my life, and just to remember that I am more than my thoughts and emotions, that calms me down.

And so now it’s time for you to find your reasons and see if it cannot help you set up a regular practice.

Love,
Ragna